Maybe I missed the memo, but it sure seems like everyone over 21 is either married or pregnant.
Literally, every time I scroll down my Instagram or Facebook Newsfeed there is another girl posing with a diamond ring or an exposed belly bump. Are we reverting back to the old days when getting married at 18 and having a family by 20 was expected and totally normal?
When I see another baby pic or engagement ring in my Facebook Newsfeed:
Don’t get me wrong, I love babies and falling in love is amazing – but what’s the rush?
More than half of my high school graduating class has at least one child, some have two or three. Yet, here I am struggling to take care of just myself.
I have no problem with falling in love and getting married young, if it’s for the right reasons. But now it seems like it’s just a trend. Couples are getting engaged or having children after being in a relationship for barely six months. Really? How does that even make sense?
I’m no relationship expert, but from experience I’ve learned it honestly takes quite some time to learn and understand who your partner really is. The first year of a relationship is just the “honeymoon phase.”
In the beginning of a relationship we are constantly trying to impress the other person. It’s not until you have had the chance to conquer a tough situation where you actually learn the qualities and flaws that your partner has. Personally, I would rather work through those flaws before embarking on a lifetime commitment like marriage.
And I know the whole “16 & Pregnant” phenomenon just seemed like a trend, but this has really turned into an issue. Babies are having babies. And I don’t mean to sound like a grouchy old woman, but it’s troubling to me. Especially when many parents aren’t equipped to handle the children they are giving birth to.
Papa Portokalos from “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” is a supporter of this trend.
If anything the MTV show “16 & Pregnant” should have shown us that juggling a newborn child while still working and going to school is challenging enough. Dealing with a struggling relationship with a crying baby that needs your attention has to be stressful.
I think our entire generation just needs to slow down. I want to enjoy being a crazy, adventurous, confused 20-something. The years are already flying by. Before we know it we will be 40 years old, looking back and wishing we had appreciated our younger years.
Marriage and having a child are both lifetime commitments. They are both decisions that should be prepared for and well thought.
So all I’m saying is, what’s the rush?