How can you keep a relationship going when you’re 3,482 miles away from the other person? How is that possible?
Well my brother Shawn is in one of those people that can maintain a long distance relationship and I still cannot believe how he does it.
Shawn met a Peruvian gal, Josselyn in November of 2012 on the website SharedTalk, which allows others to chat with people around the world. It’s mostly for people who need to practice another language.
They began talking a ton and then one thing lead to another and they formed a bond and started dating. I was last to know this information because he was scared I’d judge him for it. But, how could I not? This is crazy.
Shawn has gone to her country, Peru, twice. He Skypes with her, speaks with her by phone, texts her through the Whatsapp messaging app and connects with her via Facebook. But, how the hell can you really support someone when the distance is so large? I’m sorry to say, but how can you really trust the other party involved? Sure, you semi- know their whereabouts, but how do you know if the other person is lying or not?
As a sister, I’m afraid my brother is going to get hurt. I’m terrified this will blow up in his face. Let’s be honest – Peru isn’t the safest place in the world. My brother told me there have been random robberies on the street. Yes, that sort of thing occurs everywhere in the world, but the last time my brother went, he wasn’t allowed to go anywhere on his own. Instead, he needed someone from the family to accompany him.
Myself, I have a boyfriend who lives around the area and I can see almost anytime. I can cuddle, kiss, hug, hold hands, go on dates, hang out and sleep over his place. How do you grow as a couple if you can’t share that physical interaction?
Their whole relationship is based on communication. While that’s certainly great, I would say in order to make a successful relationship work, you must have both communication and physical interaction. True, there are some relationships that have both components and are terrible, I get that. I’m just saying, from my perspective, I believe relationships generally work better if the two go hand-and-hand.
My brother’s 21st birthday is coming up in a few weeks and he will be visiting his girlfriend in Peru for two weeks. I’m happy he will get to spend time with her, but do you realize the amount of money that is? That’s crazy and insane. The plane fare alone is about $1,000. I believe he’s staying with her and her family, but he’ll still need extra cash to buy food, go out on dates and buy souvenirs.
So, the question that I ask myself whenever he brings her up – how can this really work? How can you consider this a relationship when you’re so far away from each other?
I can understand if they met in person and then continued a relationship afterward, but they built their relationship through a website. I met my boyfriend online, but he lives here. I would never seek a man from halfway across the globe. I could never commit to someone who lives so far from me.
He’s spending a ton of money and not to mention, sacrificing his safety for a girl he doesn’t even know. How do you truly get to know someone by the Internet? The only way you speak with them is through a screen.
I just hope it’s worth it for him. It makes me so nervous since he’s going to a country he’s only been to twice by himself. I hope for the best. But like I tell him all the time, prove me wrong and let this bond you have with her continue forever. All I can say is – prove me wrong, Shawn.
What do you think? Email me your thoughts on such a long distance relationship to firstname.lastname@example.org.